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It’s that time of the year again. If your inbox looks anything like mine, you’re probably fending off Valentine’s Day related content left, right, and center. Companies that have only just finished harassing you about Christmas are desperate to remind you that if you truly love someone, then you’ll buy them that new watch, or that bunch of roses. You’ll arrange that perfect romantic evening, with the luxurious touches required to let them know just how much they mean to you. And if you don’t have someone?? Banish the thought. This calls for survival tactics, treat yo’ self spending, emergency gal time.
When did Valentine’s day become such a THING?
Seriously. I didn’t realise that I had become immune to the onslaught of seasonal branding until a friend asked me what I was doing on the 14th. I went “Uhhh…that’s Wednesday, isn’t it? Working, I guess.” Cue blank stares, and then laughter.
I’ve been with my man for three years, and I can guarantee he won’t have thought about the ‘big day’ any more than I have. If I do end up surprised (and I mean really surprised), it won’t mean any more to me than the day he randomly brought home flowers (cue me bursting into tears because no-one had ever done that before), or the surprise dark chocolate bunny I found in the fridge on Monday, because last Easter I gave him stick for not buying me an egg and he had to wait ten months for them to come back into stock. How could some cheap Valentine’s teddy mean any more to me than that?
Not that I’d ever say no to a teddy
I know that it can be easy to buy into the hype of Valentine’s Day. Depending on where you grew up, you may have been making Valentines for classmates since you were old enough to hold a pair of safety scissors. You probably navigated through puberty with the help of cheap chocolates or awkward nights out. If Valentine’s is an important part of your life, here’s a few steps to help you through the day.
Don’t let it ruin your day
Seriously. Valentine’s Day isn’t even a public holiday! So what makes it any different from May 3rd or July 29th? Valentine’s Day is only really a big thing if you let it be a big thing, so rise above the marketing bull* and enjoy your Wednesday.
Take the opportunity to treat yourself
Not because you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, but because you are a fantastic, amazing person, and you deserve it!
Hold a day in your own honour, whatever that means for you. Maybe you buy the book you’ve had your eye on. Maybe you order takeaways and binge a season of something trashy (guilty). How about you set your alarm thirty minutes early so you can actually enjoy your morning before rushing out the door? And don’t forget the classics – face masks, long hot baths, nice glasses of wine. All of these are good ideas on any day, so why deprive yourself? If anything, it’s a good thing all of those email newsletters are reminding you to spoil ‘the most important person in your life’ – because that person is you, and you’ve probably been neglecting yourself lately, haven’t you?
This isn’t the time to break the budget, but you would be surprised how great pancakes on a Wednesday can taste- particularly when you don’t have to share them.
Call in reinforcements
If you’re really feeling the lack of a hot date for the evening, then it’s time to get proactive. Organise a group of friends to get together for some quality Wednesday night fun – the stranger, the better.
Go find a bingo night, challenge yourselves with an escape room, or find a trivia night in your area. How about finding someone to teach you a fun new skill, or finally trying that weird new yoga trend (beer yoga, it’s a thing). Surround yourself with no-nonsense people who aren’t going to let you sink into the pits of despair and enjoy the company of people who bring joy to your life- and remember that you bring joy to their life too!
Ask for help
If you are genuinely struggling as Valentine’s Day approaches, it could be helpful for you to chat to someone. Check online for local resources and don’t be afraid to pick up the phone.